I sat in a diner, finished my pancakes and watched as my phone filled with notifications. Not just arguments, but messages from other grandparents, other adult children, other exhausted people caught in the same cycle.
One grandmother writes that she moved across the country to help with twins, sold her house, and now gets introduced as someone who “doesn’t work.” Another says she sent my post to her mother and, for the first time, they talked about boundaries without anyone bursting into tears.
Not everyone is grateful. Some say I “chose this,” so I should stay quiet. Others say kids are only little once and I’ll regret every moment I don’t spend on the floor playing blocks.
Maybe they’re right. Maybe I will regret choosing the Grand Canyon over one more Tuesday in the pickup lane.
Or maybe I’ll stand on the rim of that canyon, wind in my thinning hair, and feel something I haven’t felt in a long time: like a person whose life belongs to her.
That afternoon, my doorbell rings.
When I open it, Leo barrels into me so hard I nearly fall backward.
“Nana!” he shouts. “You didn’t disappear!”
“I told you,” I laugh, hugging him tight. “I just went to eat breakfast.”
Sophie stands in the hallway, holding the denim art case I made her. It’s smudged and full now, edges worn from use.
“I drew you,” she says quietly. “At the grill yesterday. With smoke in your eyes. I’m… sorry I said I wanted Gigi to live here instead.”
I kneel down, ignoring the protest from my knee.
“Hey,” I say. “Sometimes we say things without understanding the weight they carry. Grown-ups do it. Kids do it. What matters is what we do after we understand.”
She looks up at me. “What are you doing now?”
“I’m learning how to love you without erasing myself,” I answer.
Behind them, Sarah stands with her hands shoved in her sweatshirt pockets, eyes red-rimmed.
“I told them I’ve been asking too much and saying thank you too little,” she says. “I am so sorry, Mom.”
There’s no “but.” No list of excuses. Just an apology hanging in the air between us like a fragile glass ornament.
I could smash it with a catalog of every hour I’ve given them. I could hand her a spreadsheet and ask for back pay.
Instead, I step back and gesture them in.
“Come on,” I say. “The pizza’s getting cold. And I want to show you something.”
Leo’s eyes widen. “What is it?”
On my coffee table is a small stack of travel brochures. National parks. Road trips. Places I’ve been postponing for “after the kids finish preschool,” “after the next soccer season,” “after the next crisis.”
“This summer,” I say, “Nana is going on a trip. Maybe for a week, maybe two. I’m going to put my own name on the calendar first, and everything else can work around that.”
Sarah swallows hard.
“Can we help you plan?” she asks. “Not as your bosses. As your… family.”
“That,” I say, “would be the best gift you could give me.”
If you’ve made it to the end of this second part, here’s my invitation:
Look at your life and find the person who is “just always there.” The grandparent who never says no. The neighbor who always says yes. The partner who remembers every detail so you don’t have to.
Don’t wait until they ghost you to notice them.
Ask what they need. Ask what they’ve postponed. Ask what their Grand Canyon is.
And then—this is the controversial part—let something in your life get a little messier so theirs can get a little bigger.
Because one day, the “boring” love you rely on will finally sit down to eat hot pancakes at a quiet table.
On that day, you will either panic that they’re not in your driveway—
Or you’ll sit across from them, coffee in hand, and say, “It’s about time.”
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